I am hoping you can add some perspective to this for me. I noticed that you have a status as in an “open relationship”. My question is, what makes an open relationship work? In other words, what do you think are the traits and requirements for a successful open relationship and do you have any specific does and don’ts you can suggest to me?
It’s true. askpiper’s facebook status is in an “open relationship.” But that refers to askpiper the brand, not Piper the person. In fact, Piper the person is in a monogamous relationship and is soon to be (OMG) hitched. askpiper is rather flirtatious and will solicit questions from just about anyone, that hussy!
But, on to your question. Lucky for you, my soon to be Mr. Ball and Chain and I recently met with our officiant to go over our homework. (Yes, there’s homework involved in getting married. There also intense linens and silverware discussions and much handwringing over vows and passed hors d’oeuvres—lamb balls, anyone?) When the topic of commitment and relationships came up, our officiant focused on two areas: intent and communication. It stuck with me.
Any relationship, open or otherwise, is a continually evolving ebb and flow of emotions, sacrifices, ups, downs, joys and gooey stuff. If each partner is aware of his or her intentions, truly aware, and if each partner communicates his or her intentions well, perhaps that’s the key to success. Obviously, an open relationship dictates that each person involved really, really, really want that type of a relationship. Then, I would imagine, there would need to be a lot of communication regarding boundaries, rules and expectations. Frank conversations…even if neither of you are named Frank.
I found some interesting reading online about open relationships, both from the male and female perspective. Give them a look and I’m sure you’ll learn a thing or two to help you along on this polyamorous journey.