And other neat hugging tips I never thought about.
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Don’t hug with a running start…
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Category Archives: girls
Conquest or Courtship?
I met an interesting fellow over the weekend and he let me in on a little secret: “When it comes to men pursuing women, it’s either courtship or conquest.” I asked about the fuzzy space between courtship and conquest and he assured me there is no such space. The more I thought about it the next day, the more I believed him to be spot on. I’d love to know what do you all think? Is it one or the other, or is there room for more?
LI$TEN LADIE$
Here’s some great money advice from manilla.com.
say yes to love and no to bad hair
I recently read that women in the early phases of a new love are more likely to make drastic and poor decisions regarding their looks. Apparently all those feel-good chemicals mess with our look-good common sense. So, if you’re in the throes of a fresh romance and contemplating a buzz cut or pink bangs, I say step away from the salon and consider trying on a new style…something temporary. I’ve been digging these hair tutorials that A Cup of Jo has been posting. They’re offered up as wedding hair options, but, I think they’d look just as good at the office or on a Sunday stroll around the nabe.
photo by jamie beck
“Beautiful Now”…in America
If you’re a 28 year-old African-American woman with a flat stomach, just the right amount of curves and the potential to be a cougar in the future, life’s looking pretty good for you right now, according to Allure.
Sean
Dear Piper,
Yearsssss ago, I met a charming, striking, smart, and witty woman in a basement peanut bar in the Uptown section of Minneapolis. She had a unique name, which rhymes with “miper,” which I never forgot. In one of those “I wonder what happened to ….” moments (we all have them, right?), I googled the name. I’m afraid I was youngish, dickish, and immaturish at the time I met this woman (and ran into her a few subsequent times at the basement peanut bar). Is it ever too late to say, “Sorry. I was probably that stupid guy women get tired of meeting.”
–Sean
Dear Sean,
It’s never too late for a sincere apology. Just don’t be too bummed out if ‘Miper’ doesn’t remember you!
–Piper
Vintus
Dear Piper,
My friend is getting engaged and wants me to help him find rings for his girlfriend. She is an intellectual party animal into bright colours. Any suggestions?
–Vintus
Dear Vintus,
I think a really big mood ring would appeal to her color-loving side. And I think calling it a ‘disposition’ ring would appeal to her intellectual side.
–Piper
max
Dear Piper,
I Love a girl, she likes i don’t know if more. But i want a way to tell her how i feel. what should i do for her this new year?
–max
Dear max,
Well, you’re starting the New Year off on the right foot; thinking with your heart. So you want a way to tell her how you feel. There’s always the straightforward approach; just tell her. Wait for the right moment, in the right place and just take a deep breath and go for it. However, if you’re craving a more creative manner, why not use the New Year as a muse? Give her 2,008 flowers (real or drawn). Or, make a list of 2,008 things you like about her. Or, give her a calendar and in advance write something unique on your birthday, her birthday, Valentine’s day and any other day you might want to spend with her. Hopefully she already likes you and when you woo her with your sincerity she’ll enter the love territory. Keep me posted.
–Piper
d.piper
Dear Piper,
Why are so many women stuck on trying to please men who aren’t pleasable?
–d.piper
Dear d.piper,
Before I get to your excellent question I must comment on your name. Are you a Piper, too? That would be fabulous.
Anyway, to your pondering…the never ending quest for some of the XX race to please a man who isn’t, as you say, pleasable. I think it comes down to this: women are fixing, mending, repairing, accommodating, approval seeking beings. It’s in our nature to fix you a cup of tea, sew a button on your shirt, laugh at your not-so-funny jokes, sleep on the wet spot and do whatever else makes someone else feel good. Why? Because making others feel good makes us feel good. Now, in theory there’s nothing wrong with this, however, life seldom falls into nicely wrapped packages of theoretical wonder. And problems arise when women continue to go out of their way for someone who neither appreciates their efforts nor, occasionally, returns the favors. But some women don’t give up. We like a challenge as much as the XYs do. And that’s what this comes down to…often a woman thinks, ‘If I’m not making him happy, it must have something to do with me. I need to try harder or try something else.’ Fortunately, as we get older, most of us come to understand that’s all BS. Most of us come to the realization that, if he’s not happy, that’s his problem. And that’s when most girls get busy at making themselves happy, which, is the best use of their time anyway.
–Piper
BiMoreWayzDen1
Hey Piper,
I’ve been bisexual for two years now, but I like girls more than I do guys. Right now I really like this girl, but she never believes me because she says I never seem sincere. What should I do?
–BiMoreWayzDen1
Dear BiMoreWayzDen1,
Girl meets girl. Girl gets girl. If only it were that simple. Trust and sincerity don’t happen overnight. If your intentions truly are heartfelt, I think time will tell. I wonder, however, how is it that you’re communicating your feelings to your hard-to-get hottie? Are you saying and doing things that are boring and the norm? You know…complimenting her eyes…complimenting her clothes…buying her flowers. In other words, are you expressing your true feelings in ways that aren’t true to your personality or character? This could be where the insincerity she accuses you of is stemming from. Be yourself. Express yourself as only you can. Use your own language, your own sense of humor or your own penchant for uber-romantic stuff. If all that fails you can go Cro-Magnon on her, club her over the head and drag her to your cave by her hair.
–Piper
