Dear Piper, 

What do you do if you confessed your sin to someone who is a believer and instead of feeling like you can move forward, they always remind you of your sin, trying to keep you accountable but instead making you feel guilty? 


Dear Sinner, 

This seems to be more their problem than your problem. Perhaps the story of the two monks will better explain what I mean:

Two monks were making a pilgrimage to venerate the relics of a great Saint. During the course of their journey, they came to a river where they met a beautiful young woman — an apparently worldly creature, dressed in expensive finery and with her hair done up in the latest fashion. She was afraid of the current and afraid of ruining her lovely clothing, so asked the brothers if they might carry her across the river. 

The younger and more exacting of the brothers was offended at the very idea and turned away with an attitude of disgust. The older brother didn’t hesitate, and quickly picked the woman up on his shoulders, carried her across the river, and set her down on the other side. She thanked him and went on her way, and the brother waded back through the waters. 

The monks resumed their walk, the older one in perfect equanimity and enjoying the beautiful countryside, while the younger one grew more and more brooding and distracted, so much so that he could keep his silence no longer and suddenly burst out, “Brother, we are taught to avoid contact with women, and there you were, not just touching a woman, but carrying her on your shoulders!” 

The older monk looked at the younger with a loving, pitiful smile and said, “Brother, I set her down on the other side of the river; you are still carrying her.”


Monday Shout Out (on a Thursday)!


Every day is Monday to me ever since my husband and I got a new alarm clock. So excuse the late (or maybe it’s early) Monday Shout Out.

I’ve been thinking a lot lately about family and clans and names and the like. Which led me to a stunning effort by the uber talented Lacey Waterman. Check out her family coat of arms project here. It’s a gorgeous, flexible love letter to her family in the form of design. Kinda makes me wish I were a Waterman instead of a Hickman. Go Lacey!

Monday Shout Out!


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April showers bring May flowers. And in honor of flowers I bring you KatFlower; the florist with an eye for color, composition and all things beautiful. She’s available for your wedding, birthday, anniversary, bat mitzvah, game night, dinner soiree, mother’s day, father’s day, arbor day…whatever! She also gives great workshops and has an inspiring blog that you should check out on rainy days and mondays so you don’t get down. Vive le fleur!

Monday Shout Out!


In honor of (or deference to) tax day, I’ll let you know about my awesome tax guy/financial guru/real estate attorney/pal, Scott Gutterson. Scott’s been doing my taxes for close to ten years, and along the way he’s offered me some sound money advice, too. Whether you’re in New York City or not, Scott can help. Be ready for him to tell it like it is, however. Real estate, write offs, retirement accounts…these aren’t matters to be taken lightly. Scott is frank, fast and funny. The three most important F’s when it comes to managing your dollar billzzz, ya’ll.

For a sample of Scott, check out this collection videos where he talks about how to shop for a mortgage, how to buy a car and the ins and outs of stocks and bonds.

You can reach Scott here. Happy filing!